The Pressure To Get Married Amongst Women

30 Nov

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I was having drinks with a few of my single friends last week. These women range from twenty five to thirty years of age, have great careers, are smart, beautiful and happy. The problem is that they’re under a lot of pressure to get married from family members, friends and even co-workers.  The girls were saying that no one is taking into consideration that they are perfectly happy living the life of a single woman and do not feel the need to rush into marriage with anyone. They would like to meet someone and develop a relationship with them that eventually leads to marriage, but they don’t feel like it’s something that has to be done right at this very moment.

The arguments thrown at the girls from their parents, are mostly regarding the hardships of having children at an older age. While this may be true the parents should keep in mind that there are many women who don’t want children today and for those who do, there are all sorts of treatments available to help older women have children today. In addition to this, marriage is a lot of hard work that has to be taken seriously by both parties involved in the relationship. Having a child with someone that you don’t know all that well can add a lot of strain on your relationship and cause problems.

One of my friends said that someone told her that she should get married to someone  fast because many older men are now dating younger women and she’s now considered to be old. Really? I didn’t realize that you should rush into marrying anyone who comes your way just to say that you’re married. This is seriously the stupidest thing that you could possibly do because this is your life we’re talking about- not the type of food you’re having for dinner. When you marry someone you spend a lot of your free time with them, you build a relationship and a home. Everything else, including looks and age is something that will fade with time. Sure many men today prefer a young girl but then again many men also prefer a woman who’s successful and worldly.

It’s more important that you’re happy and marry someone who loves and respects you than it is to just get married. Be sure to follow your heart and listen to your brain and you‘ll eventually meet the right person. Remember there’s a man out there for every woman and it’s only a matter of time before you find each other.

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2 Responses to “The Pressure To Get Married Amongst Women”

  1. Ursula November 30, 2011 at 6:22 pm #

    AGREED!!!! Nothing can jeopardize your health and happiness more than a bad marriage. I can’t emphasize this enough.

    To all of those 30-somethings out there wondering if “Mr. Right” is going to come along in time to have babies…or ever…don’t lose hope. It might take him a little longer to find you. (Or a little longer for you to become ready to meet him!) But, eventually it will happen.

    In the meantime, treasure your friends, appreciate your job & health and freedom. And don’t let the Greek chorus get to you. :)

    • Aleya November 30, 2011 at 7:39 pm #

      Well said Ursula! It’s only a matter of time.