When I first had my daughter, a friend told me that it was a bad idea to go anywhere with a newborn baby because people would cough and sneeze on her and she would get sick and end up in the hospital. Being petrified of the idea, I accepted what she said without thinking twice about it and went from being a working woman who was always on the run to staying at home for two months straight and being very lonely and bored. The only times that I got out of the house were when I would call my mom to come over for half an hour so that I could run to the supermarket, when I took the baby to the doctor or when I went for walks around the neighborhood. Although I loved my daughter, I missed seeing my friends and having adult conversation about things besides diapers, nursing and the lack of sleep I was experiencing. After two months my friend called me and asked if I was up for a night out with the girls.
We didn’t do anything over the top on our girls night out. We went to a restaurant, did some people watching and talked. We spoke about what was going on in everyone’s life, cracked some jokes and ended the night feeling uplifted and energized. The point of the night was simply to make us laugh and feel alive again- and it did. The next day we spoke on the phone and we all said the same thing- that a night out with friends had given us the energy that we needed to go back to being happy, sane wives and moms again. Even our husbands noticed that we were happier and more energetic and suggested that we do it more often.
As appealing as it sounds to go out with the girls every week, it hasn’t been possible for me. My responsibilities at home and at work have increased and it hasn’t been easy to schedule a weekly or bi-weekly outing. We do get together every month though- and that monthly night out works just as well to get us all feeling like we are fun, vibrant women instead of tired ones.
How has a girls night out affected your life?